Disclaimer, and the letters with a disturbed girl

沒想到這篇會變成免責聲明。我在此聲明我並非從未關心或協助我的家人就醫,但我已經盡力了。他們以後變成怎麼樣,我也無可奈何了。

以下是有點混亂的內容。回信的女孩想跟我吵架,我會解釋哪些部份不是真的。
這篇基本上完全是家庭私事,只是讓人們可以看到我生活中發生的一部分,為了這部份努力過後的徒勞,還真讓我有點難受。希望他們都能過得更好。

所以不想看的就千萬別弄髒眼睛和大腦啦,這篇跳過。

如果妳是那個女孩本人,我現在用文法正確的英文跟妳說。保重妳自己,對於我的家人,我真的只能作到這樣了。

This passage is especially for you, GIRL. I believe you can easily do the translation via the help of Google, there's NO SMEARING in these passages, do not worry. If you were the girl I mentioned in this letter. Please take good care of yourself, good girl. I wish you and my family all the best. What you heard from my brother are only half-true, you are obviously misled by his false imagination and news. I forgive both of you since we had little chance to communicate and clarify, and you two also refused to reveal your true thoughts. This is the best I ca and my familyn do for my family and you. Hope you have a bright future and worth living life. 



以下就是我的信件內文了:

This is a long letter, I am writing this because I want to know what you truly think. I am not sure if this would be properly display on the facebook mail, so I attached a pdf version as a backup plan for you. If you can't read it correctly or you want to ponder on it, just print it out.

Since I don't use facebook as my primary news source, I chose a more reliable way to communicate with you---that is, email. I don't have time to communicate with you since Feb.

My younger brother has known you for quite some time. Everyday, he spends hours and hours chatting with you. I am not blaming you, but you obviously have a choice not to chat with him. I will explain why you shall not.

He had obtain some tough health issues ever since you met him, and I am quite sure you are the one that contributes these issues to him.
He had :

  1. bone spurs on his shoulders, and probably on his neck
  2. the dry eye issues. Aka "Keratoconjunctivitis sicca"
  3. the OCD. Aka "Obsessive-complusive disorder" . It's a hereditary, psychological disease. Some of my relatives on my father's side, my mother, and all four of her children, including me, have this disease. We need proper care and medicine from certified doctors. The only person who takes the therapy is me, so I am quite familiar with all these. Others refuse to see the doctors. And I can firmly tell you that your online typing chat with him is only making the disease far worse. I remember you said you had been in some psychological courses back in college? I hope you understand the importance of professional options from authority doctors---the top psychological doc in Taiwan: Dr. M.B. Lee http://www.ntuh.gov.tw/en/PSY/physician/MingBeen%20Lee/Home.aspx 
  4. Worse grades ever since then. Now he's going to graduate from college. He still had no realistic point of view on the job perspective and the real world in Taiwan. (That's a quite normal and bad situation here) He had always mentioned you telling him the greatness and the suckness of Vietnam. I wish he had a realistic understanding on where he's going to live and work, not where his girl is going to live and work.
  5. NO wealthy family and brothers to buy him luxuries, cameras, or a set of free Diablo 3 that comes with well-equiped characters. 
  6. false imagination that he is actually dating with a girl. NO, HE IS NOT. THIS GIRL HAS NO THING CLOSE TO BE A GOOD CHOICE.
Ok, Let  me explain what you has caused ever since you met him.

  1. He has spend numerous hours sitting in front of the computer just to type. This only makes his spurs condition worse.
  2. Since he has to watch the monitor, his dry eyes and eyesight got even worse. He had not dry eye issues before he met you. I am quite confidently said his dry eye issues come from the online chat with you. He wants to chat whether it is on the laptop, a cell-phone, or even when he's about to sleep. He is currently in medical treatment and the doctor asks him not to overuse his eyes in front of any of those monitors. You obviously make his condition worse.
  3. I sincerely ask you to stop, or at least, ignore his indulgence on internet chat. This would worsen his OCD and his health condition. If you want to contact him, here's an alternative: try a voiced-talking app like Skype or others. Just don't let him overuse his eyes and his back. I believe you might have a smartphone or headphone that works on a PC. This would be more efficient.
  4. I don't see the good of it, even after months of conversation, thousands of hours on these. It only does harm to him rather help him realize the real job perspective here. (Or anywhere he wants to work) All day long, he has been nagging about he could spend little in Vietnam and become a king there. What's this? A person spends tens of thousands of New Taiwan Dollar in college just to work as a dish washer with minimal wages, and take the meager earning to Vietnam to be a "temporary King" ? You've brainwashed him with the greatness and the suckness of Vietnam, now it's time to confess your intention to him and to us.
  5. My younger brother earns his humble salary from his humble works, whether it is washing dishes, standing on the street corner to hold the ad bar. He does not have a rich daddy or younger brother to support his expensive camera, nor does he capable of being a prostitute. Has his future wife or girl friend ever given him some realistic point of view on this world---especially the world he lives in, instead of hers. He can't not work as a young woman to earn easy money from men. He does not possess enough knowledge to work as a professional engineer. He does not have a rich family to keep him years in the house just to let him play Diablo 3 or online chat. This is a problem, and I believe some girl with the same problem would do any help to him.
  6. And in which way do you think you are actually dating him? To typing with him five hours per day? For how long are you going to do this to him? Ten years? Twenty years? What would happen in the end that you never really take serious thought on him? Do you ever think of you will ever married him or moved to Taiwan? Do you ever think he would move to Vietnam and join a Communist country that can not directly link to the outer world? Do you think one would ever marry a former sex worker? Please confess your true idea to me and to us. This is not dating, this is cheating.
If nothing improves in the following days, I would publish this letter on my facebook and blog, which might draw some reasonable attention from everywhere. I would not exclude the parts mentioning prostitution, which is also a good part of this letter and I believe, people might feel awakened how exploited sex workers are, which is a good thing in order to change their miserable condition. 

You are allowed to keep in touch with him, but please, I wish you to choose a more efficient way of communication, Skype in speaking, for example.

This is not a threat or warning, this is simply a notification.
If you do not response formally, I would consider publish the name of the mentioned girl in this letter. I believed this may draw more attention to her fellow workers in her condition, hopefully this will give people more awareness of the dark world.


Regards,
Howard



以下是她的回信。基本上只是把我的長篇大論直接打回來,連回答都沒有,裡面除了指控不實的漫罵就什麼也沒有了。她直接對號入座了。我所說的內容,完全是從我弟弟那裡轉述來的,沒有錯,我的家人可以作證我弟弟說過什麼,除非他本人也被這個女生的坦腹自承騙了。這個女生自稱賣淫接客過太多人,還有人耍賴不給錢的。靠著賣淫可以過著不錯的生活,一次的收入可以抵上同胞的一個月薪水。


因為她使用臉書的系統回信,所以我只要複製文字到blogger上就會出現亂碼。我以這個連結複製並紅標她的回應。這篇文章要是把兩封信的內容複製上來就會長得看不下去了…尤其對方根本沒針對我的問題回答,只是漫罵。

https://www.evernote.com/shard/s231/sh/af98c289-9a21-4a1d-b34d-5b2a7fe878e0/56c92250c324fc1a9542f956bc4316c2

嗯…我覺得我會在兩年內看到自己弟弟眼睛瞎掉或嚴重乾眼症,無法工作或生活。而這個女孩依然過著逍遙的日子。但我弟弟警告我不要再管他的閒事了。


我們可能會看到這樣的新聞標題「尼特族宅男網戀十年,積蓄被騙一場空」

新北市中和區一名吳姓男子,大學畢業後就以打零工維生,平時閒暇皆待在家上網聊天。因為每天上網時間太久,得了嚴重乾眼症,幾乎失明,同時有骨刺、脊椎側彎。男子平時與一名越南籍女子互稱男女朋友,但十年來從未見面。男子平時也沒有正常社交生活。上星期因為網戀十年的越南籍女子要求轉帳,將積蓄全部轉出後便遭斷絕音訊,承受不了刺激,一時失控拿刀刺殺家人。據了解,該名男子出身於強迫症患者家族…

下面會接著穿插精神科醫師的解釋和家人的訪問、警察

「強迫症患者有很強的執著特性,對於自己認定的事情深信不疑,部份患者可能因為自我控制能力薄弱和遭受刺激,做出極大的反應…」

「是一個很固執的小孩啦,他平常就這樣啦,講都講不聽。眼睛幾年前就壞掉了,那時候迷上網路聊天,把身體都弄壞了還是每天堅持聊天到深夜…」

「嫌犯吳姓男子坦承,前天深夜因母親責備,一時衝動便拿起刀子…」

這是未來可能的情況,如果現況沒有改變的話。我盡力了。這一家人並不願意接受治療。我只能作到這麼多了。這封信寫了很久,所以是之前還肯關心他的時候,現在我真的不會為他或我的家人哀悼了。這些家人,每個都需要接受治療。希望他們過得更好。



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